There comes a time in your life when you have to clean house. By clean house I mean that you have to get rid of any and all negative things and people.
When you're trying with all of your might to better your own life, you cannot let the negativity of others bring you down anymore. You deserve more; you deserve BETTER.
Remember: You can control how you feel. Eleanor Roosevelt said, "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." I know that it can be really difficult to think about that quote whenever you're getting picked on or having a really rough day or when you're around the most negative Nancy in the entire world. But, we always always always have the option to choose the mindset that we want to have. No matter what anyone else says or does, how they treat us or make us feel, we have the power to choose the way we look at situations... but not only that, how we react to them.
Value your own thoughts and emotions. The more that you do that, the less someone else can control and manipulate you to feel a certain way. For me, the older I get and the more I learn about life, the more confident I feel. It's helped me to stop worrying about what other people say, think, or do. I mean, yeah... to some extent I care, but I try not to make it my main focus. I try to keep my main focus on the opinions and thoughts and words of the positive role models and friends in my life. I will rely on those that have a positive effect and try to block out the ones that bring nothing but negativity.
Limit your interactions when possible. You have to do whatever you can to limit your interactions with the people that don't bring you happiness and positivity. Often, there are functions and events that you don't even really have to go to. Avoid those whenever possible. But, if there are things that you need to be at, just make sure to face it head on with a positive attitude.
Worry only about yourself and what you're doing. When it comes down to it, the only person you have to worry about it you (and your children of course!!!!! But you get what I'm saying.) You don't have to worry about the what the negative people are up to or what they're out there doing. You have to be happy with yourself. You absolutely cannot waste time worrying about them or letting them bring you down. No matter how much you might care about those people in your life, the only person you can really control is yourself. So, when faced with negative people, focus on what you can do to make your experience better. You cannot worry about them, because no matter how much you might want to, you might not be able to change their attitudes. Instead, focus on yourself.
Make the choice to be positive. Even though it may seem hard at times, positivity is always an option. You can choose to let others bring you down, or you can choose to bring yourself up. Every time you're with a negative person, you have the choice to view them in a positive light. It won't be easy, but it's always an option.
As anyone who's been in a situation where they are trying their very hardest to stay positive in their lives while others are being negative, you know how hard it actually is to not be dragged down into their pool of negativity. Just know that you are not alone. It is hard to stay positive, but it is so totally worth it and is extremely rewarding. Just keep fighting the good fight. Keep a smile on your face, and throw kindness around like it's confetti. :)
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